Do We Need to Define and Categorize Relationships?


I was at one of my regular writer meet ups this week and we got to discussing types of relationship.  This started with an off-hand comment about “friend-zoning” in relation to a Disney movie that progressed into a discussion of filial and related categories of love, platonic relationships, asexual, aromantic, and other identities, and continued on from there.  This got me thinking about relationship and why we (individually and as a society) feel the need to define and categorize them.

Human relationships come in a wide variety if you look at them in terms of romantic content, sexual content, emotional closeness, family relation, and so on, and so on.  We have this need as humans to categorize everything, so there are words for the various combinations and what that means for the two people. Continue reading

How my Reading Gets into My Writing


I’ve been reading a very interesting book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, about infidelity, fidelity, relationships, and our constructs of love and monogamy.  I’ve found it incredibly thought provoking.

While I have no experience with affairs, I am married, and we’ve been together for a long time.  This book has given me a new lens to think through my own relationship and be thankful about how atypical we are, especially for a pair of high school sweethearts. Continue reading