Last week, I didn’t post to my blog on Friday for the first time in years, and I think the second time since I started it. I take pride in keeping up with this blog and making use I post something every single week. But I was sick last week, and since I wasn’t ahead on posts, that meant no post last week.
I have a tendency to berate myself for this sort of thing, but I’m trying to be much more intentional about being kind to myself. There’s no reason I should feel bad about missing the blog because I was sick. Similarly, I’m going through some transitions with my work situation, and I’m struggling a bit as I adjust to the new arrangements. This is another place where I need to remember to be kind to myself. Change takes some adjustment and that’s okay.
So today, I want to remind everyone to be kind to yourself.
If you’re going through an adjustment period, cut yourself some slack if you mess up or miss something. I would encourage you to extend this same attitude to others, but if you’re anything like me, that’s easier than extending it to yourself. I, like many I know, hold myself to a higher standard. I’m more willing to forgive others than I am to forgive myself.
So, I’ll say it again. Remember to be kind to yourself.
Remember that any change, even a relatively small one is still change. Remember that change always comes with some adjustment time. Remember that it’s okay to mess up, to not get everything right the first time, and make mistakes. Remember that none of that is a reflection of your worth or value, to yourself or to others. Doing it wrong is one of the ways we learn how to do it right.
I hope you are all staying safe and healthy out there, and I hope you all can give yourselves just a little extra room to be your imperfect human selves. I’m trying to do the same.